How to be an ally to LGBTQ Students

Many students wonder about what they can do to support acquaintances, friends or family members who are part of the LGBTQ community. Here are some suggestions for being an ally!

Prepared by Sarah Wesch, Ph.D

What being an ally is NOT:

• Being an expert on all matters related to LGBTQ issues.
• Being a counselor.
• Taking responsibility for the student’s behavior.
• Pressuring someone to make a “decision” about sexual identity.
• Pressuring someone to come out about sexual identity.

Being an ally IS:

• Being there to listen, without judgment, to what is being said.
• Maintaining confidentiality unless the person is a danger to self or others.
• Making appropriate referrals to other resources.
• Examining your own biases and comfort with your own sexual orientation.
• Educating yourself about issues related to sexual orientation, gender, and sexual prejudice.
• Speaking up if you hear evidence of sexual prejudice.
• Not assuming heterosexuality in anyone.
• Using inclusive language.
• Promoting acknowledgement of, and respect for, LGBTQ people in your work.
• Knowing the limits of your capacity as an ally

For more information contact:
Brandon Haddock, Coordinator
Spectrum Center
bhaddock@k-state.edu
785-532-5299

Location:
207B Holton Hall
Hours:
Monday - noon to 5 p.m.
Tuesday - 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. and 3 to 5 p.m.
Wednesday - 12 p.m. to 5 p.m.
Thursday - 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. and 3 to 5 p.m.