- InterChange Conference on Woolf's To the Lighthouse
(pp.1-71)
- June 19, 2000
- Karin Westman:
- One of the first things we learn about the youngest child
of the family, James Ramsay, is that he hates his father: "Had
there been an ax handy, or a poker, any weapon that would have
gashed a hole in his father's breast and killed him, there and
then, James would have seized it." The narrator continues,
"Such were the extremes of emotion that Mr. Ramsay excited
in his children's breasts by his mere presence" (4).
- James is not alone, then, in his emotional response to Mr.
Ramsay: Why? What emotions does Mr. Ramsay evoke in those around
him? How are Mr. Ramsay's actions explained (by himself and others),
and do those explanations evoke our sympathy or criticism?
- Elizabeth Andrews:
- I think that Mr. Ramsey is completely self-absorbed. Children
have a profound ability to recognize certain undesirable traits
in adults. Like his mother says, "children remember everything."
I doubt that James truly hates his father, in fact, he probably
loves him as well. But Mr. Ramsey has a tendency to love truth
at the expense of those around him. He is constantly "rubbing
it in" that James will not be able to go to the Lighthouse
tomorrow. Mrs. Ramsey asks herself, "why does he keep saying
that?" I don't feel any sympathy for him, in fact, I think
he is a pathetic individual. However, I do see reason behind
his actions. Mr. Ramsey feels so sorry for himself he seems to
subconsciously evoke attention and sympathy from his wife. Perhaps
this "rubbing it in" to James is intended (either knowingly
or unknowingly) to gain a response. James, from a child's perspective
sees the deceit and abhores it. I also think there is an element
of parenting involved. Mrs. Ramsey thinks of how exhausting it
is to be a parent because you have to be so careful of what you
say. Mr. Ramsey lacks this. He shatters James's hope of a great
trip without even thinking. Perhaps it is more out of inconsideration
than malice. But a child would see the two as equivolent.
- Karin Westman:
- And his inconsiderate response does speak to his self-absorption,
too, I think, Elizabeth, since he thinks about being right, not
the effect of his knowledge on James.
- Is there any benefit to his self-absorption?
- Elizabeth Andrews:
- Well, it seems to be a trade off. He is self-absorbed to
the point of hurting those he loves (primarily failing to cultivate
his relationship with his wife), but as Mrs. Ramsey determines,
though he may be "out of it" in regard to flowers and
children, his understanding can often be accute and beyond that
of normal people. Perhaps it is his self-absorbtion that enables
him to be a great philosopher.
- Karin Westman:
- Yes-- And is he a great philosopher? Or, is his self-absorption
the "right" of the man of the family?
- Jennifer Cook:
- At times sometime the characters seem to have contradictory
responses to him. On pg.46, Lily isn't quite decided about his
character. She doesn't mind his arrogance, but at the same time
hates his "narrowness"and "blindness." At
times it seems like he's playing mind games -- like when he tries
to exhert control over Mrs. Ramsey around page 31. It talks about
how she has such great reverance for him, but it appears he tries
to be more of a control freak.
- Elizabeth Andrews:
- I think he _was_ a great philospher, but as his "last
book was not his best book" maybe it is consuming him. That
is an ironic image to imagine that his self-absorbtion is absorbing
him, but in Mr. Ramsey's case I think it could be true. He experiences
so many near misses. He could apologize to James and smooth things
over. He could have been the one to read to him out of the Fisher
King book. He could have apologized to his wife for saying "damn
you." But he never does. It occurs to him that it might
be appropriate and beneficial to all those involved to ACT but
in the end it is too hard for him. He is too interested in how
he feels to consider the possible affects he could set in to
motion regarding his family. If I were James, I think I would
resent him too.
- Elizabeth Andrews:
- Do you think that maybe the children can see through him
and his "mind games?" Why can't Mrs. Ramsey, or if
she does, why is she okay with it?
- Karin Westman:
- Do you have little sympathy for him, too, then, Jennifer,
as ELizabeth commented? Or are there social pressures to conform
to (images of masculinity) that cripple his ability to help,
consider others?
- Karin Westman:
- I think she does see the way his minds works-- in fact, she
often anticipates what he desires, and responds to that need
(end of Section XI, for instance).
- Karin Westman:
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- Elizabeth Andrews:
- Back to whether or not Mr. Ramsey is a great philospher.
All of this is generally coming from the direction of his wife
who views his talks with other men as nonsense. Maybe he IS a
great philosopher. But his philosophical pursuits are not fulfilling
him. Perhaps he feels that life can be more. This could explain
his regret of marriage. Even Mrs. Ramsey knows that he is thinking
he could have written better books if he had never married. So,
I think he is totally missing the point of life fulfillment.
He is trying to be complete only in one direction (his philosophy--ie,
his career) why can't he see the other elements at work in his
life and that he has the potential to cultivate them?
- Karin Westman:
- Good points, ELizabeth, that Mr.Ramsay himself is somewhat
dissatified with his philosopher's life. He sys all he needs
is a quiet house, away from the family and children he knows
he's supposed to want, but even then...would that yield happiness?
Possibily not, though at age 60+ there's not much chance for
a change in career.
- Jennifer Cook:
- I thin on p. 64 it's interesting when Mr. Ramsey feels he
has somehow failed his wife by not protecting her. "He could
do nothing to help her . . . Indeed, the infernal truth was he
made things worse for her" (64) The idea of Mrs. Ramsey
acknowledsges he wants at the end sort of indicates a typified
masculine goal -- to be protector of a "man's "family.
Do you feel Mrs. Ramsey acquieces to Mr. Ramsey a lot because
she senses some vulnerability behind his insensitive displays?
- Jennifer Cook:
- Sorry for the poor spelling!
- Karin Westman:
- Yes, I think she does agree with him to "build up"
his sense of self....a fact Woolf asks to value or question?
- Caroline Hunt:
- Several of these very perceptive comments have showed how
both Mr. R. and his wife feel, in essence, trapped (though that's
not the word any of you have used). Do you think this feeling
is a result of personal failings in one or both of them, or is
Woolf suggesting that it's a problem inherent in the institution
of marriage as consituted in the culture of the time?
- Elizabeth Davis:
- i definately think the children see through mr. ramsay's
mind games. that may be why he's still around. i think their
existance holds mrs. ramsay with him more than ideals of the
life she could have had. to break up the man's structure, i think
not!
- Karin Westman:
- To wrap up this half of our discussion, offer a final posting
that returns to the question of Mr. Ramsay's role in his marriage:
Are we to be sympathetic or critical towards his character, and
why?
- Jennifer Cook:
- I think Woolf might want us to question "building up
one's self." Is Mr. Ramsey or Mrs. Ramsey really happy due
to any of Mr. R.'s personal endeavors?
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