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Two
Year Olds: Reassurance |
Recently
my son has occasionally talked about being scared at night
(animals!). One night we talked about what he could
do if he felt scared, sad, or lonely: You can think of your
mommy and daddy and how much they love you, and how they will
take care of you and help you or You can call us if
you get scared.
The next night before bed, I told him how much we loved
him, and he volunteered, So I don't have to be scared! That's
right, I said.
He continued, So if you're SAD.... And I responded, You
can think of mommy and daddy and how much we love you.
He went on, And if you're LONELY.... I went on, Just
think of mommy and daddy.
He paused for a moment, then said, and if you're HUNGRY....
A father
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Preschooler:
Reassurance |
Our
four year old daughter, Kim, has had quite a year: A new baby
brother; Her older sister's birthday; Grandma died; And several
pesky childhood illnesses. Her personality has changed from
being outgoing, competitive and couragous to shy, timid and
clingy. I've done well for several months but recently I've
become tense and short with her. (I'm getting some extra time
to myself for reading, writing and reflection and I'm happily
improving.)
Kim is the sweetest little thing and I love her to pieces.
She has reminded me of this through two anecdotes recently
that have softened me nearly to tears. We were laying down
to snuggle at bedtime and we accidently bonked heads. I apologized
and added, I know my head is hard. She said, No,
my head is harder . . . and thicker.
Out of the blue she started talking about how much she loves
her aunt, who lives in Missouri, about 12 hours drive from
our home. She said, I love her with my heart -and my thinker.
Carol Feather-Francis
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Young
Gradeschoolers: Reassurance and affection |
When
my son was about eight years old he and I were in the car alone
on our way to do some shopping. I was feeling discouraged with
much of my life at that point and was feeling rather melancholy.
I turned to Bill and said, Bill, I'm feeling pretty sad
today. Bill looked at me serously. Then he patted my leg
and said, Dad, you just gotta have hope. What a guy.
Needless to say, my day brightened considerably.
A father
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Older
Grade Schooler: Courage/Sacrifice |
Alana
Franklin saved Jahan K. Rimes from assault, Silver Springs,
Florida, June 1, 1998. Jahan, 6, was in a bedroom of his family's
ground-level apartment after a man armed with a gun broke into
the unit and shot Jahan's mother and two other relatives. After
the assailant pursued Jahan's mother to the bedroom, Jahan's
aunt, Alana, 11, student, fled the apartment to summon assistance.
Alana returned to the scene and, knowing that Jahan was in
the bedroom, went to one of that room's windows, in the side
of the building. She broke then unlocked the window, opened
it, and pushed aside the blind. She saw Jahan on a bed within
reach of the window and the assailant in the doorway. Alana
partially entered the room through the window, grasped Jahan,
and pulled him outside. As they ran away, the assailant went
to the window and fired. A four-hour stand off with police
ensued, following which the assailant was arrested. Although
wounded, Jahan's mother and the other hostages survived. Alana
received the CARNEGIE MEDAL awarded for extraordinary heroism
in the United States or Canada by the Carnegie
Hero Fund Commission. She may be the youngest to earn
the award.
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Adolescents:
Courage/Sacrifice |
During
the night of August 6, 1998 in Hanahan, South Carolina, Layonee
R. Phillips had fallen unconscious in her car. Unfortunately,
the car was positioned directly on a railroad crossing and
was in the direct path of an approaching train traveling at
about 45 m.p.h.. Keith Louis Putnam was a passenger of another
vehicle that approached the crossing. He immediately left that
vehicle and ran to the stranded car. He grasped Ms. Phillips,
pulled her from the car, and dragged her to safety. The train
bearing down on the crossing, Keith returned to the car, looked
inside (thinking another passenger may have been left behind),
and turned away. The train then struck the car, which struck
Keith, inflicting fatal injury. Keith Louis Putnam was 15 years
old. Ms. Phillips was treated at the hospital for minor injuries. Keith
received the CARNEGIE MEDAL awarded for extraordinary heroism
in the United States or Canada by the Carnegie
Hero Fund Commission.
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