Can you think of a situation in which a parent
might decide a child has a problem when in, in fact, a significant
problem does not really exist? The situation might be upsetting
to the parent. An impartial observer might conclude, however, that
the problem resides in how the parent is reacting, not in the children
themselves. Consider the following situations:
Sandy has two young preschoolers who have been laughing
and making other loud noises at church. She has become visibly
angry when this happens. Last Sunday she grabbed both children
during the service and pulled them both down the aisle as she
left.
Jack has enjoyed his relationship with his son, Mark.
Now that Mark has turned thirteen, he's become quite sullen
around his father and avoids going out in public with him. I
don't know what's gotten into him, Mark says. He was
never this way before.
What do you think of these problems? What are some of the
reasons these parents might have reacted the way they did?
If you are keeping a journal, summarize your responses to
the above situations and identify what may be some of your
own personal aggravations you may have with your children that
you may have to reevaluate.
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