#5 Give specific instructions
Advanced, ages 2-18
When children do not know a rule, tell them what to do. Be clear about your expectations. Caution: overuse of this tool can create insecurity in children and overwhelm them with excessive parental control.

Examples:
Don't touch that knife! Sharp. Stay away! Dangerous!
Jamie (4 years), Here... share the blocks with your sister.
Jason (15 years old and learning to drive): Slow down here. You are going too fast when you make a turn.

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