Caring is a demonstrated concern for the well-being of another. Caring is active, not passive. I propose there are essentially two types, one psychological, the other tangible. Psychological is the intent to contribute to self-respect or self-confidence. Tangible is a more indirect form of caring demonstrated by providing resources or services for another. Of course, there can be overlap between the two. Each of these two types can vary in terms of the risk to the caring person. High risk means that the display of caring will probably require overcoming fear and having courage and the outcome could have negative consequences for the caring person. Low risk is more safe, without the element of fear.

This provides a 2x2 matrix of caring:

Type 1: psychological high risk

Type 2: psychological low risk

Type 3: tangible high risk

Type 4: tangible low risk.

So what would be the type of caring of  those who receive Carnegie Hero Medal for risking their lives to rescue someone in danger? The kind word of a nurse as you are being transported to an operating room? A preschooler making a joyful drawing for her sister? A teenager who moves to stand beside someone being bullied? All types are important. In future blog entries, I will provide more examples of each type. I invite you to send me examples from your experience as well. I’d love to hear from you.