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![[reflection]](../../graphics/prism0a1.gif){kind=small} Relationship Bank |
| Think of a typical week you spend with one
of your children. During that hour, imagine making a bank deposit
for every positive reaction you made to your child's behavior.
A hug, a kiss, a pat on the back, a kind word, a smile--a deposit
made for each one. Every negative reaction: a frown, a correction,
taking a toy away, expressing anger, is a withdrawal. Withdrawals
have to be made (that's a parent's job at times). Some deposits
and some withdrawals are larger than others. Spanking or emotional
blackmail, for example, are likely to be significant withdrawals.
So what does your relationship bank account look like. Are you in debt? Is the account slipping into bankruptcy? If you don't like the balance, there is two things you can do: increase the deposits and/or decrease the withdrawals. Parents who are bankrupt with their children loose their leverage to be effective teachers. Some of the tools we discuss later in this course will show you how to do reestablish a healthy account. If you are keeping a journal, describe the type of account you would like to have and what you will do to achieve it. |
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