Respect the privacy of anguish
All of us want come to terms with the anguish of loss and trauma in our own way. For some, the best way is to wall off the anguish and move on. In our pop psychology culture, we may believe this to be a sign of mental illness and failure. Some people have a need to talk about a horrible experience. Others do not. Others may prolong their misery by constantly reliving a trauma by discussing it repeatedly.

Research has shown that survivors of the holocaust who had no interest in talking about their experience were better adjusted and happier than those who relived their horrible moments by talking about them. There was probably a time when they needed to talk, to share their story. Once they did that, they felt no need to share it again.