Pace if necessary
If Friends continue to swing to the emotional extreme, we may have to return to the compassionate pacing we demonstrated at the Threshold and gradually move to Stabilize as Friends feel understood and affirmed.

Think of a pendulum that is slowing down. It doesn’t swing wide and then suddenly stop in the center. The arc of the swing gets smaller and smaller until it stops in the center. That’s what we do when we partner with someone facing heartache. What slows the momentum is our compassion and understanding.