Confront compassionately
Our relationship changes at Transformation. We may compassionately confront Friends when they fail themselves, when a retreat descends to self-pity. We know a retreat is on the path to surrender when a person fails to act responsibly and to fulfill commitments that show progress.
                                               
Confrontation means reminding Friends of the promises they made to themselves at Mobilize. Depending on the relationship, we may express our disappointment in their behavior. We demonstrate to Friends at Transformation that we have high expectations for their behavior because we believe in their ability to move on with their lives. Confrontation can be a form of support and encouragement. In some cases, we may encourage them firmly to seek professional support if they are unable to complete this phase (though this should have been apparent and necessary much earlier than this).

Don’t confront if the retreat is temporary due to fatigue or discouragement. Standing up to a failure to take responsibility for progress can be a necessary part of accountability.