Self-respect is a judgment we make about ourselves as a result of the choices we have made. If we have an internal locus of control, we shape our self-respect around an internal moral code, not the opinions of others. The source (locus) of self-respect lies within each of us. Self-respect is gained though making difficult moral choices, not getting others to like us. Children may learn that there can be a high cost in achieving popularity, one that actually diminishes self-respect.