Without choice there is no power. You do not give someone power. They have to create it within themselves. Sometimes this act of creation has to be delayed for other important matters. The person may be ill or grieving or so burdened by experiences of cascading stress that they feel paralyzed to act. At this point, the focus has to be inward looking toward personal healing rather than outward to solve problems. During these moments, we need to find someone with strength to lean on.