Values originate in relationships. A child, for example, is profoundly affected by a parent’s values and makes them her own. As she grows up, she may gradually find her religion as a source of guidance for her personal code. In the development of a healthy conscience, values are thoroughly integrated into character. Internalized values are like a personal gyroscope that points us in the right direction. Externalized values are more like a weathervane, easily changed by outside forces. An external locus of control does not build honor or self-respect because they reside in something outside of us. They do not “belong” to us. How do children learn an external locus on of control? There are two dramatically different forms of childrearing that influence an external focus.