#21 Ask for consequences
Intermediate, ages 4-18
When children appear to be indifferent to the consequences of their misbehavior, involve them in a discussion about how they and others have been affected by what they have done. Make sure they understand the consequences of their choice to misbehave.

Example:
Parent of Jamie (7 years old): You took the toy from Mr. Bridge's store without paying for it. What happened as a result?
Jamie: I got into trouble; you got mad; I have to apologize to Mr. Bridge.
Parent: Yes, you do. You will also have to pay for the toy you took. I am not just mad--I'm also worried about your taking the toy. I love you.

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