Advanced, ages 3-18
When children are being argumentative, determine the direction of their argument; then shift this line of reasoning to a more positive goal. Avoid disagreement. Mentally side step the main argument and gently turn the child's thinking to a more positive direction. This tool works best if a child is inclined to think positively.
Examples:
✔ A toddler resists being taken from his high chair. Father responds, Ok, tell me when you want to get down. After a few moments, the child says, I get down.
✔ Cindy (15 years) says, Mother, I can't do this homework. It's impossible. I'm so stupid. Mother responds, Oh, oh. Sounds like we're going to need some help with this. I know of a student at the junior college we could get to tutor you. Might even be worth asking the teacher for some extra help.
✔ A preschooler demands I want a cookie! Mother responds, Sure, Tammy, right after dinner.
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