⚡ Make a specific reasonable request
The previous several skills involved focusing on the other angry person. This skill, making a reasonable request, refocuses on your anger and the reasons for your emotional response. You give the other person the opportunity to resolve the situation. Of course, the request has to be reasonable given the situation and the person.
Let's say your two-year-old is wiggling in his seat at church and is distracting other worshipers. You begin to feel angry about his disruptive behavior. You then ask him to quiet down. He doesn't stop and you become even angrier.
Did you make a reasonable request?
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